Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Introduction to an Anxious Over-Achiever

(Personal photo of myself with my stuffed cat, Fuzzy, who never left my side.)


I enjoy having too much to do and not enough time to do it in. At least, that’s why I’ve said when people questioned how I managed to take twenty hours a semester, work two jobs, and be involved with student organizations and productions.

Their follow-up: “What’s wrong with you?”

My response: “Lots of things.”

I use humor as a way to hide my true feelings. I’ve become a master of disguise—a master of everything is okay. I have high-functioning anxiety. I feel this overwhelming urge to try to do everything because I have this gripping fear of missing out or messing up and becoming an outcast. I remember in Kindergarten, I was so frustrated that my sixes looked like whales. We had to write the number six over and over and over, and I kept erasing and erasing because I thought that they were the worst sixes I ever saw. Eventually, I gave up and hid the assignment in the dark recesses of the junk drawer. (The only time I never turned in an assignment—I assure you!) I felt this strong need to establish perfection in everything I did. I strove to always have the “right” answer. I hate excuses, and I have made myself sick in pursuit of trying to do too much. In my senior year of high school, my immune system crashed. I had barely any white blood cells, and they weren’t completely sure what was wrong with me. I had my blood drawn and tested almost every day until my white blood cells were finally considered (on the very low end) of normal. Looking back, I’m not surprised that I became so sick. I would sleep an average of  five or six hours a night. On average, between activities, I was at school for over twelve hours every day. I would try to get a quick nap in at lunch or work on homework to attempt to get a little extra sleep that night.

Looking back on it now, I want to laugh and say that I’ve changed. I’m only taking thirteen hours this semester before graduating in May. Although I look at today and realize I went to work in the School of Drama Office at 9:30 this morning. Then came home at 5pm to work on homework and eat before I have to go back to school at 6:30pm until 11pm for rehearsal. I love what I do. I am excited to work in the School of Drama Office. I can’t wait to go to rehearsal tonight. I’m enjoying this class. I really do enjoy being busy. In fact, I get really depressed when I have free time. I feel like I’m squandering away the few precious moments I have on this Earth by taking a day off. Some will call this driven. Others will call this crazy.

I started attending therapy last year, and it is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Although, I feel like I haven’t changed much in practice. My own perception of myself has changed a full 180 degrees. While that is in part to therapy, it’s also in part to my experiences at the University of Oklahoma. I’m very fortunate to be surrounded by my encouraging and supportive School of Drama family. When I went in for my final evaluation, my professors told me that I need to work on not doing so much. I need to take time for myself and learn to say no. Throughout my time here, they helped me learn that it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s natural and a part of life, and it is not the end of the world. They’ve taught me to be kinder to myself. They’ve helped me realize the importance of mental health. Many artists struggle with that issue, and they are very open about their own experiences. This is probably way more than you wanted to know about me. You probably would rather know that I have five siblings (two brothers and two half-sisters). I’m the oldest. I have my library card number memorized. I wrote a rap as one of my essays into the University of Oklahoma. I got a 33 on the ACT with a perfect 36 on the science portion, and it’s really dumb, but I’m super proud of that. I’m more proud that I received the Mary Gray Thompson Award for Outstanding Contributions to the Activities of the University of Oklahoma Weitzenhoffer Family College of Fine Arts. I’ve also started working professionally as an actor this year. I’m in commercials for OERB and Main Event. I also got to meet Ted Levine, the guy who played Buffalo Bill in Silence of the Lambs, earlier this year on set. I wrote a full length play last year. My favorite movies are The Imitation Game and His Girl Friday. Now you know everything you wanted to know about me and more.

On that note:


Hello, and welcome to me.

(Quote from Little Women by Louisa May Alcott that I painted.)

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